These are cases of Negging.
Misogynists typically resort to negging to put ‘over-confident women’ in their place.
Those who resort to gaslighting will first charm you and win your trust. All is well till the time the target / victim falls in line with the gaslighter’s wishes. Then when they are caught lying or the target doubts his/ her intentions, thy resort to gaslighting.
Here begins the journey of breaking your confidence by discrediting your memories and feelings. And when you bring it up, they will make you seem silly and immature for doing so. They will dismiss you as well as the situation and convince you to nip it in the bud. In case you persist, they will either change the topic or pretend to have been hurt by your actions making themselves appear as the victim. Now the latter is a very cunning move…because you will end up feeling miserable and will apologize for the wrong being done to you. They will never apologize to you. This is a big tell-tale sign.
Gaslighters are usually very intelligent people and craft their arguments very well. They have a strong need to be right always and hence you will feel never win arguments with them. They will alternate between being nice and mean. All this is a part of their agenda and it will upset you, confuse you and make you feel less confident.
- To undermine your confidence
- To make you always feel confused, frustrated and overwhelmed
- To brainwash you so that you forget your true identity
- To make you vulnerable and ultimately accepting of the manipulator’s wishes
People who are narcissists i.e. those who have “buried their true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self” usually end up manipulating others.
Here are some characteristics of manipulators: